Swinglers
A Swingler is a kinky event produced by Mingler held in a fully sex-positive space, where we can kink and play and orgasm and laugh, and dream up scenes (like the 'swim-up-bar' and Spookybang) and make them happen.
A space where spin the bottle kicks the evening off, and the final orgy of the night winds down about 20 minutes before closing time.
A space where people of all genders, sizes, cultures, interests, and experience can gather and enjoy connection and play in a safe, accepting, and friendly environment.
Our parties are specifically kink-centered and inclusive. We focus on creating a friendly, super sex-positive welcoming space for the kinky, sexy and curious of all genders, relationship statuses, body types, orientations, and more.
People often ask, “How different is a Swingler than a regular night at THE HOUSE?” So we created an answer from a discussion we've had in the Swingler event channels.
You can read more about our event accessibility here.
If this is something you're interested in, read on. If not, no worries.
Mingler takes over THE HOUSE in Raleigh with gender inclusive, kink-forward, consensual fun!
We open up the first 40 spots to previous Swingler attendees. The rest of the opportunities are mixed and matched between new Swinglers and more experienced folk, so everyone has a chance to attend the sexiest kink party in Raleigh!
Here's how registrations work.
All new Swinglers will need to get registered (every individual must register on their own—we don't do couple registrations).
Every Swingler must be approved to attend by one of our hosts/mods.
Every Swingler must be vetted by phone or video, if not a member of the Mingler discord server.
Because this is a no-holds-barred party, these requirements are in place to assure that the overall vibe is right.
The First-Timer Fee
We charge $15 to first-time Swinglers ONLY. It's a one-time fee that goes to food, supplies, purchasing some furniture, and so on.
Everyone else just has to pay to get into The House.
We run other Mingler events at no or low-cost right now. We look for spaces we do not have to pay for.
Some spaces require a certain size of group or minimum buy, which we can meet with our usual groups, but not necessarily with our MOC or rainbow mafia gatherings.
$15.
To help buy things to make those events the best they can be for everyone. Sign up sheets, equipment, vegan and vegetarian food options.
And for first-timer Swinglers, it's a way to make sure that you are serious. That you don't RSVP, then ghost.
A way to make sure you are not just wanting to look at free titties (or gawk at the freaks or whatever).
A way to allow people who are new to all this to come in through the sexy door that you think you want, and FIND community (or not), even without the "in" that other parties in the area require.
A small cost for the hand-holding, orientation, attitude correction, and overall WORK we put into making the VIBE right for everyone, of all genders, relationship statuses, orientations, and more.
$15. Even with the cost to The House that is STILL less than a single man pays to attend The House (when they are even allowed).
(That is something I had to fight for with The House. Genderless admission, BTW.)
Some people have asked about "new people" buying their way in.
To my mind, that is fair. because if they do not fit, they do not come back, or we tell them they are not invited until they become a more active and loved member of the we-connect-as-humans-community.
Putting on an event like this is a lot of work.
My attitude is always "do the work."
OFFER something more. Become a part of the community. Make friends.
OR (and this is just as valid), discover that the friends-connections-first vibe that we go for and the work it takes to make that happen is not for you, and instead attend less-vetted/less-kinky swinger events that you don't have to prove that you will be a fun kinky sexy person to be around to attend.
Like many of those here.
That's OK, too.
But if you ever wonder why we do things the way we do, you can just reread this and know that we are (I am) VERY focused on making each and every Swingler a night to remember for ALL.