What's The Mingler?

  • It's an event guaranteed to connect you with real/local/kinky folk in the RDU/Triangle area of NC!

  • It's a discord server and it's HOPPING!

The kink community in RDU has always had a lot going on, but it still seemed hard for people to really CONNECT.

So, The Mingler was created.

In addition to events (official events posted on FetLife, LOTS of unofficial events and gatherings posted on the server), we have a discord server always growing with amazing LOCAL kinky people who are open to meeting other kinksters!

With channels like:

πŸ™‹πŸ»πŸ™‹πŸΌπŸ™‹πŸΏ-daily-q

πŸ“…-events

πŸ§‘πŸ»πŸ’žπŸ§‘πŸ½-anon-questions

πŸ’‹-fad-female-artists-of-domination

🌈-lgbtqiaa-plus

πŸ‘‹πŸ½πŸ‘‹πŸΎπŸ‘‹πŸΏ-minglers-of-color

πŸͺ’-rope-space

πŸ’―-wellness-is-a-great-game

πŸ’•πŸ’•-nonmonogamy

✨-18to35-minglers

❌-nsfw-fun-and-flirty

And more...

Some of our channels are opt-in, some are for known folks only. But whatever your interest, there are bound to be people who share it, are ready to geek out, and who are looking forward to connecting with you!

A few notes:

The Mingler is friendly AF. Come on in and say hello.

We are also inclusive. And we are made up of amazing human beings.

There are a few things that will go over like a lead balloon:

  • Crappy consent practices

  • Looking for or pushing for sex, versus connecting as humans

  • Misgendering

  • Hate speech

So, if you are a poopy-meany-pants, pass us by. You won't last long. I promise.