Swingler: Winter Wonderland

Our first official Swingler of the season—open to ALL (yes, that includes singles of any gender).

Swingler takes over THE HOUSE in Raleigh with gender inclusive, kink-forward, consensual fun!

Our parties are specifically kink-centered and inclusive. If this is something you're interested in, read on. If not, no worries.

Theme: Springtime Sexy

🌸 Flowers!
🌸 Bright colors!
🌸 Less clothing!
🌸 White shoes!

Wear your favorit springy frocks, your tiniest shorts—whatever makes you feel your best for RDU's sexiest party!

Sunday, May 26th at The House

NOON - 6:00PM

Is this your first Swingler?
If this is your first Swingler, do you plan to get vetted by participating in our discord channels or by video/in-person meet with Nookie?
Do you need vegetarian/vegan options?
I have read the information and rules below and I agree.
$15 first-time Swingler attendees PAID NOW—you cannot be vetted if you don't pay AND message Nookie!
PLUS $30/person: bring cash to THE HOUSE in cash, night of. 
$15 goes to Mingler to help us buy equipment, put deposits down for other events, and to hire services for Mingler events.

CashApp: $DatingKinky
Venmo: @DatingKinky


$30 goes to THE HOUSE to reserve the space for this party ONLY. Only employees of THE HOUSE will be there, aside from our party goers, to assure things go smoothly.

The Mingler is starting the evening off with a mingler, to get to know each other better and choose our favorite costumes.

THE HOUSE provides hot dogs and hamburgers at 9pm and 11pm, non-alcoholic drinks, and light snacks through the evening. Mingler provide vegetarian/vegan options. 


All Mingler Community Guidelines apply. 

See the âś…-community channel for a refresher. They apply to ALL Mingler events, anywhere, anytime. 

If you are not a Mingler member (for this party ONLY!), the rules will be a part of the vetting conversation.

All Swingler attendees MUST be Mingler members in good standing for at least TWO weeks — OR be vetted personally by Nookie — NO EXCEPTIONS!

Unless vetted personally by Nookie, all new Swinglers MUST post an introduction (in the Swingler intros channels), participate in the online orientation, and join the planning and conversation leading up to the event.

Want to know why? Click Here. 

Personal vetting is for this party ONLY. 

Do I have to have sex or am I expected to be naked? 

Simply put, no. 

This is a sex-positive kink party. That means you can be as naked or as sex-involved (OR NOT) as you want. 

There is no pressure for you to do anything at all. If you like, you can just sit back and watch everything that goes on without being involved. No one will pressure you to do anything. You should not have anyone come up and try to touch you without your permission.

What are Touch-Me-Nots?

Glow bracelets worn on either arm during the party mean that you are not open to being approached for sexual or kinky play by anyone, unless you have specifically given them permission. You may also use this ribbon if you are not open to play with anyone outside of your current partnerships, or people you've made previous arrangements with. 

You may approach others, and you may remove your own bracelet at any time. 

We provide the bracelets. 

No means no.

If someone tells you no to something then respect their wishes and stop doing what they asked you to stop doing. Use some tact when you approach someone.

What should I wear? 

We don't have a dress code. You have to be street-legal to the door, anything goes inside. 

No smoking inside THE HOUSE.

You must go outside by the pool tables to smoke. That is the area set aside specifically for smoking.

We also must keep the party inside THE HOUSE and out by the pool. No outside in the front of the house. We don't want to bring no unnecessary attention to the party from the neighbors.

Sex & nudity are allowed in designated areas anytime.

Have fun and enjoy yourselves at the party. If you would like to be naked, go naked. If you would like to have sex in public, then have sex at your table, on the dance floor, on the couch, or anywhere else that you like. Sex and nudity are allowed everywhere at THE HOUSE. If you have sex in the hot tub or pool make sure they swallow!! Do not make them dirty and slimy!

Absolutely no illegal drugs.

Please DO NOT bring any kind of illegal drugs to the party. The last thing that any of us want is to bring unwanted attention to the club. No sharing of prescription drugs is allowed.

No hard alcohol allowed.

The only alcoholic beverages that you may bring are beer and wine products. If you are unsure of what is considered hard alcohol just remember this: If you can buy it at a grocery store, gas station, or convenience store then it is ok to bring with you. If you can only buy it at an ABC store then it is not allowed.

Excessive drinking will not be tolerated.

We want you to have fun and enjoy the party but we do not want you falling down and getting hurt or hurting others. Some people have a tendency to say things to someone that they would not normally say and we do not want to hurt anyone's feelings or cause a problem. If you do drink make sure that you have a designated driver, we do not want anyone to leave our party under the influence of alcohol. If you can't drive then stay until you sober up. Or get a hotel if there isn't room for you to stay here overnight.

No fighting.

Before you come to THE HOUSE please talk to your partner and discuss what you both are comfortable with. Do not do something that you or your partner is uncomfortable with and causes an argument. If a discussion becomes heated, do not argue, scream, or yell in front of everyone. If you cannot settle your differences, please take it home; don't wait for us to ask you to leave. If we do, you wont be invited to the next party.

Don't touch PRIVATE stuff.

THE HOUSE is not just a venue, it's also a home. Disposable products and towels/sheets are made available. Do not open cabinets or go into private areas. If you need something, find Nookie or THE HOUSE staff.

Photos are allowed WITH DISCRETION.

We respect everyone's right to privacy. 

Photos ARE allowed WITH DISCRETION. And I mean it. If any photos with faces that are not consenting show up anywhere, it's an automatic 1 year ban from Mingler and Swingler. Period, no exceptions. Take pics ONLY of you and your friends, and if someone else gets in, blur that shit! When you get your photos, if you're willing to share with Mingler for posting recaps of the fun here and/or on Fet, please reach out to me. smiles

Do not touch without asking.

There may be naked people walking around, scening, or having sex at the party.. If you see someone that you would like to play with you must ask first, DO NOT walk up to someone and just start touching them without asking first. Just because someone is naked and near you (even talking with you or flirting with you!) does not mean that they want to be touched. If people are having sex, ask first if it is okay to touch or play with them. DO NOT just start rubbing on someone, sticking your fingers, or placing your hands where they do not belong.

Doors open at noon for the event.

The party begins as soon as you're in. 

THE HOUSE usually locks the door at 3:30 pm. So if you can't make it by then, please make arrangements ahead of time.

First-timer fees are nonrefundable for this event.

After that, we are happy to put the fee towards another Swingler event.

You see, we close the registrations to new people 10 days before the event, so we have time to get y'all into the channels connecting, make sure you have gotten through our online orientation, and so on. We've saved that spot for you.

Rules are non-negotiable. 

We are serious about every single rule we have. 

So much so that if a rule is broken, it is a mandatory 1 year ban from all events and the Mingler discord server, no exceptions. Other action may be taken, depending on severity.